The Mindset Shift That Changes Everything
How to Train Your Brain to Work For You
Ever set a big, exciting goal—one that lights you up—only to have your brain immediately flood with doubts?
I don’t have enough experience.
What if I fail?
People like me don’t do things like this.
And just like that, your mind starts scanning for proof that these fears are true. You start noticing every little thing that could go wrong, remembering past mistakes, and suddenly, the dream that once felt exciting now feels completely out of reach.
But what if your brain could just as easily start looking for proof that you can do it?
Because here’s the game-changing part—your brain is always filtering reality based on what you already believe to be true. Shift those beliefs, even just a little, and everything around you starts shifting too.
Your Brain is Always Looking for Proof—Make Sure It’s the Right Kind
Your brain is constantly deciding what’s important and what can be ignored. There’s a part of it called the Reticular Activating System (RAS) that acts like a filter between your conscious and subconscious mind.
Ever had a moment where you learn something new—a word, a concept, or an idea—and suddenly, you start seeing it everywhere? A friend randomly brings it up in conversation, it pops up in a book, you hear it in a podcast. It’s not that it wasn’t there before, but now your brain is actively noticing it.
Now, imagine applying that same principle to your goals and beliefs.
If you believe you’re capable, your brain starts noticing opportunities that align with that belief.
If you doubt yourself, your brain will pick up on things that confirm that doubt.
Your thoughts aren’t just thoughts—they shape what your brain prioritizes, what you notice, and ultimately, how you show up in the world.
How We Keep Ourselves Stuck Without Realizing It
We all do this, often without meaning to.
We tell ourselves stories—stories shaped by past experiences, fears, and the things we’ve absorbed over the years. And because the brain loves patterns, it keeps reinforcing them.
If you believe success is for other people, your brain will ignore all the ways it could be possible for you.
If you tell yourself you always mess things up, you’ll focus on your failures and overlook your wins.
If you assume people don’t value what you have to offer, you’ll miss the moments where they actually do.
It’s not that opportunities don’t exist—it’s that we’re filtering them out before we even give ourselves a chance.
The Shift: How to Train Your Brain to See What’s Possible
The good news? Just like your brain has been trained to reinforce doubt, you can train it to focus on proof that you are capable, worthy, and ready.
1. Start Noticing Different Evidence
Every time you catch yourself thinking “I can’t,” pause and ask: Is this actually true, or is this just something I’ve repeated so often that it feels like truth?
Instead of “I’ve never done this before, so I probably can’t,” try “Everything I’ve ever done was once new.”
Instead of “This is too big for me,” try “If other people have figured it out, why not me?”
2. Talk About Your Goals Like They’re Already in Motion
The way you speak about yourself—both to yourself and others—matters. Instead of saying, “I hope I can do this,” try “I’m in the process of making this happen.”
It’s a small shift, but it changes how your brain processes it.
3. Surround Yourself with the Right Proof
Want to shift your belief system faster? Surround yourself with people who are already doing what you want to do. Your brain will start recognizing that it’s possible for you too.
The Moment Everything Changes
When you stop letting doubt run the show and start seeing proof that your dreams aren’t just possible—they’re inevitable.
Your brain is listening. Your thoughts, your words, your beliefs—they are shaping your reality every single day.
So, what if you stopped looking for proof that you can’t—and started training your brain to see that you can?
Because the moment you do, everything starts to shift.